For 4 years i was a wantrepreneur, i just wasn't committed. I wanted to be extraordinary by doing ordinary efforts! I was giving myself a lot of excuses back then, but now i know that the reason of not taking that extra step is basically, i was so afraid of other people judgments! what if i went all in and failed? what they are going to say about me? It's hard to admit these things that you are just simply afraid! Thank you Sharran for sharing your book story
It takes an incredible amount of courage to admit this, and to take that well needed look in the mirror to confront the truth. Thank you Sharran, this was incredibly insightful and also a powerful way of bringing your message across - a lesson through a tough engagement with self-reflection. This is me, when I speak about "starting my business" - "the branding isn't quiet right", "yes but can I add some more", "is person X going to tear this apart and let everyone know how pointless this so-called service is". This hit home!
Wow this was intense! Made me rethink my goals in a very real way. The parenting goal hit me the hardest because I've sung that song for the longest while now, I realized what I actually want for my kids, and it's not sexy but it's honest.
Even in business, my husband was honest with me about what he wanted and didn't want and I got worried because it didn't sound sexy, I realize now that he made the right move being clear as to which goals are actually his and which aren't. It's insane his lack of need for validation.
I also agree fully with your strategy to achieving them, it's proven techniques to keep your brain in 'explorer mode' vs 'guard dog mode' as well as a technique to intentionally affect how much dopamine goes to that activity. The more impossibly small the task, the easier the ask on the brain and the higher chance you'll get excited having achieved it. Both result in a habit being formed pertaining to that task.
Most of all, this post has me wondering, what's the value of my word to myself? That's quite a sobering question there.
Well this was a much needed slapping in the face.
Always appreciate your insight and experience. Thank you!
For 4 years i was a wantrepreneur, i just wasn't committed. I wanted to be extraordinary by doing ordinary efforts! I was giving myself a lot of excuses back then, but now i know that the reason of not taking that extra step is basically, i was so afraid of other people judgments! what if i went all in and failed? what they are going to say about me? It's hard to admit these things that you are just simply afraid! Thank you Sharran for sharing your book story
Damn this is good.
It takes an incredible amount of courage to admit this, and to take that well needed look in the mirror to confront the truth. Thank you Sharran, this was incredibly insightful and also a powerful way of bringing your message across - a lesson through a tough engagement with self-reflection. This is me, when I speak about "starting my business" - "the branding isn't quiet right", "yes but can I add some more", "is person X going to tear this apart and let everyone know how pointless this so-called service is". This hit home!
Wow this was intense! Made me rethink my goals in a very real way. The parenting goal hit me the hardest because I've sung that song for the longest while now, I realized what I actually want for my kids, and it's not sexy but it's honest.
Even in business, my husband was honest with me about what he wanted and didn't want and I got worried because it didn't sound sexy, I realize now that he made the right move being clear as to which goals are actually his and which aren't. It's insane his lack of need for validation.
I also agree fully with your strategy to achieving them, it's proven techniques to keep your brain in 'explorer mode' vs 'guard dog mode' as well as a technique to intentionally affect how much dopamine goes to that activity. The more impossibly small the task, the easier the ask on the brain and the higher chance you'll get excited having achieved it. Both result in a habit being formed pertaining to that task.
Most of all, this post has me wondering, what's the value of my word to myself? That's quite a sobering question there.