How to Delete Your To-Do List and Still Get Everything Done
A 20-minute method that asks questions and hands you answers
Most productivity tips tell you what to do at the exact time when you cannot do them.
I know this because (it feels like) I tried everything.
I bought fancy notebooks and filled them with ideas. I made giant lists where I wrote down every single thing in my head. I drew charts with boxes and arrows connecting my tasks. I even created point systems where I gave each task a number to figure out what mattered most.
Sometimes these things helped me feel better for a day or two, but then I woke up and felt just as stuck as I did the week before.
I don’t do those things anymore because I realized that having a plan is useful, but most planning methods ask you to do hard work at the worst possible time. When you feel buried and behind, most advice tells you to sit down and write everything out. This feels good while you are doing it because you think you are making progress. But you are really just writing down all your problems instead of solving them.
When you finish, the things stressing you out are still there waiting for you, and you just spent an hour describing them in more detail.
Here is what is crazier: Most experts say to dump everything from your brain onto paper and then score each item.
This gives you something to do and makes you feel busy, but it does not give you the one thing that actually makes you feel better, which is a next action that you can do right now to fix something.
I recommend stopping the habit of writing things down when you feel overwhelmed.
You do not need more homework when you are already drowning. When your mind is racing, your brain moves faster than your hand can write, and your fingers cannot keep up. That notebook you bought to help you actually becomes one more thing you have to deal with, which is the opposite of helpful.
Now that I am done bashing everything that doesn’t work, it’s only fair to tell you what I think does work.
I have found that two simple things work well when you feel buried. The first thing is moving your body a little bit, which calms you down and helps you think clearly. The second thing is talking out loud without anyone judging what you say, which lets you get thoughts out as fast as they come into your head. Now we can add something new, which is talking to an AI using voice mode on your phone. Think of it like having a smart assistant who works only for you and listens to everything without interrupting. You walk and talk while the AI listens to everything, organizes what you said, and then gives you back a short plan you can actually do.
One of the most difficult parts is sorting through the priorities of the projects on hand. Mainly because your mind pushes away tasks when it cannot figure out how long they will take. Tasks that feel too big and too vague make you want to avoid them, and big scary tasks never get done.
So instead of ranking which tasks matter most or deciding which ones are urgent, I suggest using one simple rule based on time. Every single thing you need to do should fit into one of three boxes, which are 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 90 minutes.
If something does not fit into one of these three boxes, you can ask the AI to recommend a way to break it into smaller pieces so that it does fit. You should not have to figure this out yourself because if you could, you probably would have done it already. Let the AI do this work for you so that you always know whether something takes 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 90 minutes.
Also, the reason I use 5 minutes as the shortest time box is because most of us are really good at underestimating how much time things actually take. It takes a minute to open your email, another minute to find the right address, a minute to write the message, a minute to proofread it, and a minute to send it correctly. I give myself enough time to do things right instead of rushing through them. When I spend 5 minutes on a short task, I take the time to do it correctly so there are no errors at all.
Also, lists can be never-ending… especially if you have a fancy task manager like Asana, Trello or Monday.
I originally started off with numerous lists like this week, next week, someday, on vacation, and on weekends. Then I realized that having so many lists was unhelpful and made me feel more stressed. I simplified my life to just two lists, and I want to recommend that you do the same, especially when you feel overwhelmed.
Here are the two lists: things to do next and things to do later. Every task goes into one of those two buckets. When a task involves another person, you can turn it into a 5-minute action where you send the email, make the call, or ask the question. Once you send that message, you are done with your part and you do not need to track whether they responded because you already closed your side of the loop.
So let’s bring this to life.
I suggest putting on your headphones and opening the AI voice app on your phone. Start walking for 20 minutes.
Before you start, tell the AI exactly what you need using these words:
Act like my assistant. I feel overwhelmed and I am going on a 20-minute walk. I am going to talk and you will write down everything without judging me.
Here are the rules:
1. Do not ask me to write anything down. I will not write, make charts, or create lists.
2. Put everything into only two lists: Do Next and Do Later.
3. Every item gets a time label: 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 90 minutes.
4. If something does not fit these times, recommend a way to break it down until it does fit. Do not ask me to figure this out. You figure it out for me.
5. Anything involving another person becomes a 5-minute task: send the message, make the ask, or hand it off. After I do that, it is handled.
6. At the end, build my First 90 plan using items from Do Next. The plan must add up to exactly 90 minutes. You can use one 90-minute task, three 30-minute tasks, or a mix of 30-minute and 5-minute tasks that add up to 90 minutes. Then tell me the very first thing to do when I get home.
Start by asking me: what is weighing on me most right now.Then start walking and start talking.
The AI will ask simple questions to help you figure out what to do. It will ask what the next actual thing you need to do is, whether you can do it in 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 90 minutes, and if not, it will recommend a way to make it small enough to fit in one of those boxes.
If the task involves someone else, the AI will ask what the 5-minute message you need to send is.
The AI asks one question for each task without making you score things, rank your life, or answer deep questions about what matters because it just helps you turn stress into action.
When you finish your walk, the AI reads back two lists and one plan.
Do Next shows every item with a time label and a clear action you can take.
Do Later shows the same thing for tasks you will handle after today.
First 90 shows a 90-minute plan built from your Do Next list.
Then the AI asks one last question, which is what is the first action you will do when you get home. This question matters because it turns clear thinking into actual behavior instead of leaving you with just ideas.
While this may sound a little futuristic, you have to understand that Ai excels in tasks like this.
You do not have to sit at a desk and force yourself to think harder. You do not need a three-hour planning session. You do not have to play games with scores and points. You walk, you talk, you let it all out free.
The AI takes your jumbled thoughts and turns them into a short plan you can start doing today.
I encourage you to go take a walk and talk out loud about what is bothering you. When you get home, try doing one 5-minute action immediately. The weight will lift much faster than you think.
If you want to start right now, copy and paste the prompt from this article into your AI voice app and have it build a plan for you as your coach.
It’s pretty badass.
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Super solid!
I was thinking about this exact same problem all day today and really didn't want to pull out these lists. Kept feeling like more overwhelm and a waste.
Love this - just tried it
it - now its in the AI "head!
Got it, James! I’ve got all these tasks in my head. If there’s anything else on your mind, I’m ready to catch it!
Feels less overwhelming already. Thanks Sharran.
Nice one man! Super actionable. Been using AI like this, the buckets add another layer that I'm gonna add. Thanks!