10 Truths About Failure Nobody Taught You
The messy stuff I had to figure out on my own… maybe you don’t have to.
Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned. If the same thing keeps happening, that means there is a lesson in there you have not learned yet. I often ask myself, “What would need to be true for this to not happen again”.
An expert is a man who has made all the mistakes. The goal is to walk away from every mistake with a heuristic (a thinking shortcut) like a rule, a framework, or a checklist.
Confidence is the memory of success. One bad outcome can mess with you more than ten good ones if you let it.
The best math you can learn is how to calculate the future cost of your current decisions. I try and play out 3 chess moves. Meaning, I ask myself “If I did this, what would be a reasonable outcome.” Then I do it two more times and see if I like where it lands.
Risk is often better than regret. The things I did not do haunt me more than the things I tried and failed. All your failures are the greatest stories you live to tell.
People only see the decisions you make, not the choices you had. Most people cheer for you until they start seeing you as more successful than them. Kinda messed up, but generally true.
Figure out how to guarantee defeat. Then do the opposite. This is the classic AAR (After Action Report) I learned from the Navy. I ask myself four questions after anything goes wrong: what was supposed to happen, what actually happened, why was there a gap, and what will I change.
The degree to which you can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth you can accept about yourself without running away. My biggest wins and best relationships have come from me taking massive responsibility for my actions, sometimes even when taking said responsibility was the irresponsible thing to do.
Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel. As my business partner and bestie Leila Hormozi says: “Fugg your mood, follow the plan”
A winner is a loser who tried one more time. Never give up. Never quit.
I made this video that breaks down the three types of fear that cause people to fail and the tools I use to beat each one. If this list helped, you will like the video too.
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"...walk away from every mistake..." sounds not good. I think you meant "mitigate from every mistake," right?